Have you ever achieved something amazing, only to hesitate when it came to sharing the news with your friends? Perhaps you’re worried they might feel jealous or dismiss your success?

If you’ve ever felt nervous about the thought of sharing good news or found yourself holding back from sharing your victories with the people around you, this is for you.

As a mindset coach dedicated to helping women cultivate authentic connections and learn to embrace their journeys, both the highs and the lows. My work has shown me that having support is crucial for personal development. Over the years I’ve had the privilege of witnessing countless transformations fueled by the power of having supportive positive relationships.

In a world where social media often amplifies comparison and envy, it’s crucial to return to the essence of support, of being there for each other, whether it’s with friends, colleagues, a mentor or coach, or family members.

Let’s delve into why the best friends are those we can call to share our successes with without the shadows of jealousy or resentment creeping in, and the importance of sharing your triumphs with those who truly support you.

The importance of sharing good news.

Every achievement, no matter how small or grand, deserves to be celebrated. Such moments carry emotional weight—they reflect hard work, perseverance, and dedication. Whether it’s landing your dream job, completing a challenging project, or reaching a personal milestone, each success signifies growth.

However, sharing these moments can sometimes provoke anxiety. The fear of being perceived as boastful or the risk of jealousy from friends can create a barrier. It’s vital to recognize that true friends will want to celebrate your joys rather than feel threatened by them.

Why you should share.

Here are three reasons why it’s so important that you share the wins, and good news:

Amplification of Joy – Sharing your happiness magnifies the joy you feel, and it can create a ripple effect of positivity, which has no boundaries.

Building Connections – Opening up about your success fosters deeper connections and can serve as a source of inspiration for your friends.

Validation – Your achievements are valid and deserve acknowledgment and celebration. Friends who cheer you on play an important role in affirming your worth.

By allowing yourself to share your victories with friends, family, or a mentor/coach you help build a supportive community around you that thrives on mutual joy rather than comparison.

Good friends support each other.

The key to navigating friendships that withstand the test of time lies in recognizing those who genuinely support your journey. True friends are not merely those who stand by you during the hard times; they’re the ones who lift you up when you shine, share in your excitement, and inspire you to reach even higher.

True friends are those who will:

Celebrate Your Wins – They will uplift you and help you gain perspective on your achievements while encouraging you to continue chasing your dreams.

Offer Encouragement – Instead of feeding feelings of inadequacy, they will inspire and motivate you to embrace your full potential.

Be Vulnerable with You – True friendships allow for mutual sharing that doesn’t hinge on envy. These bonds thrive on honesty and vulnerability.

Take the reflection test – are my friends good for me?

As the common saying goes “When the going gets tough, you find out who your real friends are”. But maybe it’s actually when we make great personal gains and experience personal growth spurs, that we discover (or become aware of) who our true friends are. Try this little exercise to reflect on your interactions with others and try to consider this.

When you achieve something wonderful, do your friends respond with excitement, or do you feel an undercurrent of envy or resentment?

Do your friends actively create opportunities to help you succeed, or do they subtly discourage you from pursuing your goals?

When you’re excited about a new direction in life, do they ask engaging questions and offer support, or do they point out all the potential problems?

Do you feel you need to minimize your accomplishments or apologize for your success when around certain friends?

When you share your ambitions, do your friends help brainstorm possibilities, or do they remind you of past failures?

Does your growth and success seem to create distance in certain friendships, while strengthening others?

Why jealousy arises.

Jealousy is a normal feeling we all experience from time to time. It often stems from insecurities about ourselves and our place in the world. When a friend succeeds, it might trigger feelings of inadequacy or lead to comparison. This is a totally natural human response but one you should strive to overcome, particularly within friendships.

If you want your friends to be there cheering you on and supporting you, you will have to commit to doing the same for them, even when that green little monster shows its head.

Be aware of not falling into the comparison trap of comparing yourself to others, this is not a zero-sum game, other people achieving success has no bearing on your ability to achieve the same. Actually, if you hang around successful people, there’s a much greater chance you will be inspired and fueled to achieve your goals as well. So, be mindful of not allowing feelings of insecurity, resentment, and self-doubt to surface when faced with the success of others.

Identifying your cheerleaders.

So, how do you identify and cultivate the friendships that will support your journey? Here are some thoughtful strategies:

Evaluate Your Circle.
Reflect on who you call for good news and who you lean on during tough times. Are these the same people? The true cheerleaders will encourage you both ways.

Foster Open Communication.
Create space for open dialogue about successes, struggles, and fears. Invite your friends to share their achievements with you too, cultivating mutual appreciation.

Set Boundaries.
If some relationships leave you feeling drained or anxious, consider addressing them head-on. Honest conversations can lead to more understanding and nurturing connections.

Mutual Encouragement.
Surround yourself with genuine friends that allow the friendship to thrive on shared exchange. Pay attention to those who are sharing both their struggles and successes with you.

Choose your cheer squad wisely

Best friends are those who you can share your good news with, feeling safe and loved in the process. These relationships are built on mutual respect, encouragement, and unwavering support.

The beauty of these friendships lies in their ability to uplift, inspire, and transform how you view your achievements and each other. When your friends cheer for you as you scale new heights, you create an environment where everyone can thrive.

So, seek out individuals who radiate positivity, practice gratitude for these connections, and watch as your own optimism flourishes. And if you’re looking to cultivate this kind of supportive environment in your life, consider working with me as your coach. Together, we can create strategies to build meaningful connections, celebrate your wins, and develop the confidence to share your successes openly and joyfully.